A feminist guide to standards, money, boundaries, reciprocity, and being loved without shrinking yourself.
Let's be honest.
A lot of women have been taught to feel guilty about wanting things from relationships.
Wanting a man who is generous.
Wanting effort.
Wanting financial responsibility.
Wanting to feel cared for.
Wanting commitment.
And sometimes, even wanting more than we're currently getting.
But there's a difference between having standards and feeling entitled to someone else's resources.
There's a difference between receiving and depending.
And there's a difference between compromising in a relationship and constantly compromising yourself.
That's what this book explores.
I wrote it for the woman who's caught somewhere in the middle and keeps asking herself:
"Am I asking for too much?"
Inside, we'll talk about money, provision, boundaries, reciprocity, emotional effort, dating, marriage, Nigerian relationship expectations and what it actually means to have standards without turning relationships into transactions.
You'll also get practical exercises to help you figure out what you actually want—not what social media, your friends, your family or a relationship guru says you should want.
Because ultimately, this isn't about getting more from men.
It's about learning not to feel guilty for wanting a relationship that gives something back to you too.